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Going the distance

Atualizado: 27 de jun. de 2023

Psychologically speaking there is a reason for everything. Our make-up is formed from the moment we are conceived in our mother’s womb. So why is it that many feel the need to contract the services of a psychiatrist or psychologist?

Psychology is an interesting subject that many people feel is needed to help them get over psychological problems such as death in the family, work related annoyances, and personal issues that they are confused about and find hard to cope with.

The thing in my book is why is it that parents are unable to teach their children strength conditioning to have the confidence to think for themselves without panicking unduly about every little detail life throws in their face.

Get them consistently to break the ice and keep developing self-esteem. I suppose it really comes down to individuals who communicate to themselves, and are able to come to positive while decisive conclusions whereby they are able to stand in when council isn’t available and hold the fort when facing fear and worry. It takes time to overcome such hurdles, but toleration causes inner strength conditioning!

It's easy for me to say, as I’ve been on my own from a very early beginning. My parents never mother coddled me. The overprotective parent “coddles” her child when she believes that completely shielding her child from inevitable problems and disappointments is a necessary part of parenting. Subsequently, the coddled child will learn to depend on others to rescue them from life's calamities instead of depending on oneself. Sad but true!

My family members have also used such services over the years to help them position themselves to rediscover who they really are and how they can cope more efficiently in life. My wife even coaxed me into having a session many years ago. So many questions thrown in my face, having to answer about things I had already mentally dealt with, and then having it all brought up again when I was moving on, really pissed me off. I walked out relieved that I would never be going back even if I was paid to do so.

Life takes its toll on everyone. The best advice I can give is work on your emotional intelligence, and don’t suffer for other people. In other words, we can influence ourselves, but what others do and say, whether liked or not, should mean putting up with them, become tolerant for their ignorance, and having the internal strength to survive, and then go forth while thriving.

Yes, the reality is hard when we cannot for a moment understand what their angle is, and why they are ruining whatever it is and how it has impacted you, but accept it and move on.

Accept the situation and realize the world is a difficult place. There are no free meals! The relevance of psychology is important for the fragile and emotionally weak.

Psychologists study cognitive, emotional, and social processes and behavior by observing, interpreting, and recording how people relate to one another and to their environments. They use their findings to help improve processes and behaviors.

In other words, they help their enthusiasts to realize they are able to cope, make strengthening emotional intelligence the number one priority. This goes hand in hand with not agreeing with all demands children expect and parents want to oblige by giving in and showing how wonderful they are.

My mother-in-law used this technique to show she was so good, and how her ways were much better than her own daughter, and this ultimately was to get at me – someone she could never accept as her son-in-law. She is the epitome of life!

I count myself as lucky to have first-hand experience with an old hag, as it has helped me become a stronger person. Now looking back, she helped me, so I suppose I should be grateful – you wish…...!

Have a fantastic day!

Prof. Carl Boniface

Vocabulary builder:

Womb (n) = also known as uterus the organ in the lower body of a woman or female mammal where offspring are conceived and in which they gestate before birth.

Break the ice (idiom) = do or say something to relieve tension or get conversation going at the start of a party or when people meet for the first time.

Stand in (phrasal verb) = intransitive fill in, substitute, deputize, take somebody’s place, cover

Hold the fort (idiom) = look after things, take care of things, take over, take charge, mind things, attend to things

Toleration (n) = allowance, acceptance, open-mindedness, broadmindedness, liberality, understanding, consideration, (ant) prejudice

Calamities (n) = disasters, catastrophes, mishaps, misfortunes, tragedies, blows

Psychiatrist (n) = a medical practitioner specializing in the diagnosis and treatment of mental illness.

Shrink (n) = slang for a psychologist, psychiatrist, or other mental health professional who conducts psychotherapy.

Psychologist (n) = an expert or specialist in psychology. "Psychologists are being called in to help employees cope with job losses."

Psychiatrist verses Psychologist = The main difference between the two is that a psychiatrist has trained as a medical doctor and can prescribe medication. A psychologist is not a medical doctor and can't prescribe medication. However, there are many similarities between psychiatrists and psychologists.

Coaxed (v) = regular verb for persuaded, sweet-talked, charmed, enticed, lured, tempted, win over, twist somebody’s arm

Pissing me off (phrasal verb) = is to annoy them. intransitive to annoy someone very much. “It really pisses me off when you talk like that.”

Synonyms and related words. To make someone angry or annoyed. annoy.

There are no free meals (idiom) = is a phrase that describes the cost of decision-making and consumption. It suggests that things that appear to be free will always have some hidden or implicit cost to someone, even if it is not the individual receiving the benefit.

When push comes to shove (idiom) = means something can be done if push comes to shove, it means something can be done if the situation becomes so bad that you have to do it. “If push comes to shove, we can always sell the car.”

Giving in (phrasal verb) = intransitive means obedience, compliance, surrender

Epitome of life (idiom) = if you say that a person or thing is the epitome of something, you are emphasizing that they are the best possible example of it.

Hag (n) = a witch, especially one in the form of an ugly old woman (often used as a term of disparagement for a woman).

P.S. Phrasal verbs can be transitive or intransitive meaning transitive verbs are followed by a direct object. Intransitive verbs are not followed by a direct object but can optionally be followed by an indirect object.

  1. Transitive: Please pick up some butter. We can’t just say ‘please pick up’ because this phrasal verb needs a direct object. What are we picking up? Some butter.

  2. Intransitive: Let’s hang out. We can’t add a direct object to this phrasal verb because it’s intransitive. You don’t hang out something. You just hang out.

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